Downsizing with less angst.

 

Downsizing can be a daunting task for anyone.  Multiply this six-fold when you’re not well, are used to being totally independent and yet you find yourself overwhelmed with everything that needs to be done.  Worse still despite knowing you need to move to where you can get the support you need, you really don’t want to go.

This is the dire situation many of my elderly clients find themselves in.  Many don’t have family or friends around to assist with their move.  Sometimes I think it’s probably easier for a third party to have the difficult conversations with people about what should and shouldn’t be moved, but if you’re working through this process with family members, here are the steps I follow:

Empathy.  Acknowledge this is a difficult time of life and that so many years of memories are intrinsically tied up in the family home of 40 years or more.  Assure mum and/or dad they have ultimate control over what goes with them, what is donated and what is disposed of.  This is the most important step, as you need to have your parents on board with the changes that will be happening.

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Busyness Overload

 

Do you ask yourself some of the big questions about being busy and balance? Why is busyness glorified? Why do so many insist on wearing busyness as a badge of honour?  Why do we hold ourselves to such impossibly high standards?  

I recently listened to a podcast hosted by Mia Freedman of Mama Mia fame, where she mentioned that she has amazing low standards for her life.  Things like having friends over for dinner and having burgers on the menu.  Not a homemade extravaganza, but take away burgers.  I have to state now - I love this woman!

Now, for us mere mortals, we too can take the pressure off ourselves.  If you're keen to ditch the overwhelm and get off that busyness hamster wheel, try these tips:

  • Firstly, ban the “busy”.  When you’re asked how your day is going, don’t automatically reply with “busy”.  Using words like “busy”, “hectic and “crazy” can actually make you feel more overwhelmed!  Change your language and watch what happens!

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As you would be aware, every estate, like every person, is different.  Yes, there are legal processes that must be adhered too & similarities between estates, however, we're fully aware that we're usually meeting executors & family members during extremely difficult times & an individualised approach is required.

That said, we are extremely process driven when clearing an estate.  Our process flow looks something like this:

  • An executor or family member will contact us for assistance.  Usually, they're overwhelmed with what has to happen.  They could be working full time themselves, living in different parts of the State (or world) & don't know how they are going to get things done.

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'Tis the Season

 

Merry Christmas to everyone from Time Made!  Whatever you're doing, I hope you have fun, are around friends & family, & make the most of the festive season.  We are taking a few days off between Christmas & New Year, but otherwise, we'll be working.  The phone is starting to run hot for our drop in house sitting service, where we come to your home, feed your animals, water the plants, collect the mail etc.  Anything to make you look like you're at home when you're not.

If you're feeling a bit stressed coming up to the break, you may find these tips helpful.

  • Don't feel like you need to go to EVERY Christmas party or function leading up to the big day.  I suggest to my clients to be selective about what they attend.  Do they really want to or need to go to every party?  You don't have to roll into the Christmas break totally exhausted.  It's ok to say no. 

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